Our
culture is our history and I have found that each culture has it's
own traditions that shape how the genders in that society relate to
each other.
In
the West women have tended to lose their old stereo typical roles
completely and as a consequence have also lost the essence of
respect that those roles had afforded them in a bygone
era. Women in 'so called' civilized
society are now portrayed as sex symbols in only 'cold' beauty terms.
The cost is high. To be portrayed as cool but as cold as ice, does not make the grade in achieving a happy family. We see marriage break ups and families fragmenting more frequently, giving an overall sense of loss of structure and balance in those societies.
In
the eastern hemisphere on the other hand, women are held back and
treated in an equally exaggerated way as in the West, but in the
other direction. Being afforded little respect by being treated as
servants without feelings or ambition to do anything other than take
care of children, cook and clean, is in my opinion, as equally a
destructive a situation as the lack of respect and care shown to
women in the West.
There
has to be a middle ground in order to gain balance in this most
important aspect of human civilisation. Men and women should be able
to live in harmony and trust each other in order that family and
balance can be returned to future generations. I would hope that we
all want our families to thrive and grow, along with Society, into a
more caring and fulfilling world to live in. We owe it to our
children, and Children's children.
To
achieve this change we have to look at stereo typical portrayal in
the media, and how way off the mark it is in nurturing a good, caring
society.
I
have been horrified at some of the down right selfish portrayals in
simple advertising. Examples that spring to mind are that of a girl
moving her car so the chump hanging out of her window doesn't fall on
it and scratch it. Using ironic humour to sell cruelty and lack of
empathy in this way just encourages the parting of the ways of men
and women.
Another
example is the telling lies and going to extreme lengths to keep a
man out your your bed in order to snuggle up with a lousy chocolate
drink!? This would not induce a sense of worth in any male that I
would want in my bed! Tripping someone up in order to reach out and
grab their goodies, is another example. The media encouraging
celebrities who split up, to fight in public, spill the dirt etc.
etc. etc. is no way to go on. The rub is, we are poisoning our own
perceptions of what is right and wrong in order that the powers that
be, get what they want. IE Everyone working their guts out to make
them rich. People burning out through exhaustion and lack of proper
health and care, is a true vision of family despair. No
togetherness, is not the way it is meant to be. Man and woman in
harmony work very well. We must see that the media encourage this
alliance and do not continue to dilute it down until there is nothing
left to save.
Less
of the 'Ladette' mentality and more of the gentlemanly, 'Open all
doors' attitude, would truly make the difference for generations to
come. Put an end to ridicule and competition between gender roles.
We are each perfect for the roles we were given. Our biological make
up is such that we must fulfil our needs. Women are built to nurture
and men are built to hunt and care for their family. Gathering is
their job and rearing is a woman's. These
two taken together in harmony could put an end to child poverty,
cruelty and many other scourges within our
societies today.
Discrimination
and hatred towards all minority groups would slowly be eradicated and
life would be much easier for everyone. Men need to care by hunting,
and women need to care by nurturing their children, and their men.
This
is quietly important to society today because without change now, 'Here'
could quite soon no longer be a society we will want to live in!
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Note First Published by BudZusHammer Magazine 2008. 
This
Edition 2013
This
Edition 2013